ADVISE TO THE SINGLE PEOPLE
FAMILY MATTERS: THE SINGLE PHASE OF LIFE
October 7, 2016
Family-God’s Priority
October 20, 2016
GCC message 9thOctober 2016
As we get towards the end of our series we feel that we need to address many of the areas that make us complete as believers and as a body of Christ. The single life is a reality and we cannot pass over it.
Today I am just adding a few other ideas to also encourage our young people especially given the fact that you are more than we who are married.
1. GET TOTALLY EMMERSED IN GOD
1 Corinthians “32 I want you to be free from anxieties. The unmarried man is anxious about the things of the Lord, how to please the Lord. 33But the married man is anxious about worldly things, how to please his wife, 34and his interests are divided. And the unmarried or betrothed woman is anxious about the things of the Lord, how to be holy in body and spirit. But the married woman is anxious about worldly things, how to please her husband.” ESV
Life before we get married is the greatest opportunity to serve the Lord. During this time you have more time and there is less distraction in your life.
Jesus was unmarried and he used all his time to serve his Father.
Paul was a single man and his life was such a blessing to God.
Many of the ladies who served Jesus were unmarried.
All the great revivals were done by young people. David was still young when he killed Goliath, Joseph was young when he did all the exploits.
Do not waste your youthful life.
It is easier for young people to spend a night in prayer on Friday, it is easier for you to go for 40 days of fasting than a married person.
2. Live a Clean and Holy Life.
1 Timothy 4: “16 Keep a close watch on yourself and on the teaching. Persist in this, for by so doing you will save both yourself and your hearers.”
Eph 5: “3 But sexual immorality and all impurity or covetousness must not even be named among you, as is proper among saints. 4Let there be no filthiness nor foolish talk nor crude joking, which are out of place, but instead let there be thanksgiving.” “ESV
A single life can be lonely but can also be tempting. The biggest temptation is premarital sexual relationship. Drugs and alcohol can also a problem.
Many young people get involved in things that they often regret when they grow older.
The greatest gift you can give your future life is a life that is not corrupted by pre-marital sex. Live clean even with the person you are engaged with, anytime you let yourselves go that route for you both ,you stand a chance of not marrying that person.
THE BEST ADVISE IS NOT TO PUT YOURSELF IN PLACES WHERE YOU WILL BE TEMPTED TO COMPROMISE YOUR PURITY. You do not need to spend a night in your boy friends room. Why do you have to go to Nairobi the 2 of you alone.
The reality is that a big % of young people get married after sex and I know some of you fall in that category. It is a sin, it will impact your future marriage.
WHAT IF YOU failed?
Repent and commit yourself to stopping and beginning a new journey.
3. WORK ON YOUR PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT
2 Timothy 2:15
“15Do your best to present yourself to God as one approved,[6] a worker who has no need to be ashamed, rightly handling the word of truth.”
Excerpt From: Crossway. “ESV Bible.” iBooks.
The single life can be long and can also be short, it is an opportunity to prepare for your future life.
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Learn how gentlemen treat women. Learn how ladies treat men.
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Develop your Personal character and behavior.
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Finish your education, if the opportunity is there.
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Develop your work ethic. If you cannot work you will suffer in marriage. Kids are great but expensive, your expenses multiply the day you get married.
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Invest your money in things that will make your future financial stability certain. For guys buy a bed, a sofa and things that you will need in the future.
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Ladies learn about how to cook, learn about how to prepare a balanced diet, learn about family planning.
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Have personal hygiene, care for your body, look good, be smart, have etiquette.
4. USE YOUR OPPORTUNITIES
Eph 5 “15 15 Be very careful, then, how you live—not as unwise but as wise, 16 making the most of every opportunity, because the days are evil. 17 Therefore do not be foolish, but understand what the Lord’s will is. NIV
Trust and wait on the Lord but be wise.
Know what you want.
What kind of man or woman are you trusting God for? Do not over spiritualize.
BE AVAILABLE
Future spouses are found in places where there are people. Do not hide from people. In a church setting; be in things where fellow young people are. We have outings please attend them, we have small groups full of young people attend them, we have retreats. Serve in places where other people are serving, eg, ushering, outreaches.
Future spouses are found in places where there are people. Do not hide from people. In a church setting; be in things where fellow young people are. We have outings please attend them, we have small groups full of young people attend them, we have retreats. Serve in places where other people are serving, eg, ushering, outreaches.
- Do not push away friendships when they come just because your time is not yet. I have met people who say “we met in high school.”
- Be a friend with people for the sake of being a friend, it is out of those friends that we get life long friends. Actually never marry a stranger marry your friend.
- You are not an angel. Never expect an angel because you are not one, please do not reject a person because they only have 60% of your requirements.
- Discern. If you have lots of uncertainty in your relationship please leave it, God may be warning you of a future problem.
- Get married. Do not over stay if you can help it. Don’t wait until you are rich and do not reject a man because he is poor.
- Look good and be likeable .
When you find a good relationship do not hide it and do not over stay, get married!
5. ENJOY YOUR SINGLE LIFE
We usually have one opportunity to be single please enjoy that season while you have it. Learn to laugh and to serve God. This is the time to travel and go places, this is the time when many people get involved in mission work, where they volunteer in places.
SOME REALITIES
Not all people who want to get married will get married.
Some people who were married before have found themselves single because of the unfaithfulness of their former spouses. Or because of their own foolish decisions.
A bad marriage can be worse than being single.
There are some people that were called by God to be single and they are enjoying it.
What if you had a bad situation? Do not give up.
FINALLY : God is good, please trust him and don’t give up on him at any cost.
